One of the biggest things that I have found that returns me to being happy quickly is Forgiveness. Now I know when I say that word some of you will be thinking things like 'but I can't forgive........because of this.'
But let me ask you this. How does this make you feel? When you think of this person what comes to mind?
Forgiveness is something that I work with daily. I forgive myself, I forgive the person who cut me up the car, I forgive the person who raped me at 15. I forgive everything. Not for them; But for me, because I cannot live with the feelings of hatred and anger that were coursing through my body.
A Course in Miracles says 'Love holds no grievances.' This states that through loving yourself you are unwilling to live with the negative emotions that you are carrying around.
I know that this is a hard process and it took me many years to forgive the person who raped me. But what mattered was my willingness to forgive. When we are willing we send the Universe this little light that says right now may not be the time but soon you will be able to.
I remember the moment that I truly forgave the person that did that horrible thing to me. I was sitting in meditation and I saw him standing in front of me. He no longer looked menacing but pathetic, sad and sombre. In that moment I saw a stream of light come down around us both and I saw all of those bonds being taken away. I said the words 'I forgive you,' and in that moment I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
When you are ready you will be able to do this too. Just lean on the love within you.